That is what bothers me - that Judges rely on Cafcass decisions. As I mentioned earlier - I had one Cafcass officer who “threatened “ when I wouldn’t back down and agree to something. Saying “the Judge will do what I say” ominously - and basically I had to back down and agree to something which wasn’t in son’s best interests. Got it sorted at final hearing though.
Am also aware that some Judges know full well that Mothers clamour for Cafcass involvement because they intend to coach and manipulate. One Judge said - everyone knows the child will just say what the parent tells them to.
What is shocking is that Cafcass do seem to take all allegations as fact believing the Mother before any evidence has been seen. As you say PD maybe they are just covering their backs in case anyone gets hurt. But Karen Woodall (PA specialist) is pretty scathing about them saying they are trained to a “feminist model “ of social work (presumably women as victims and men as abusers). You’d think feminists would be saying to Mothers - get a job! Share the care. Bizarre. They have this inbuilt thing as well (from 1970s psychology stuff) that the Mother is the most important - special bond and all that. Which frankly is codswallop. The bond is equal IMO. And some Dads are better parents than Mums. Which is why it should be 50/50 - in case one parent isn’t up to scratch! (Lots of other reasons too).
If it’s a first application with a recently separated couple I can understand in some ways then needing to look into allegations. But in cases like yours PD where you’ve been co parenting for years it MUST be clear the allegations are a reaction to the court application!
I had exactly the same thing after years of parenting. In fact a return to court after final hearing had Cafcass gunning for me and siding with the Mother. Why? Because she risked losing residency. From what I’ve seen, any Dad who applies for residency will have Cafcass siding with the Mother (what’s going on there? Is it “he’s trying to steal her kids” attitude?).
I honestly think they think the kids are “hers”. But not all cases - easier when there are no allegations. I fell foul of making allegations of ex at one point (which were true). She made up some back and then they think - child in the middle of conflict - give them to the Mother.
You need to tread carefully with Cafcass.
Am also aware that some Judges know full well that Mothers clamour for Cafcass involvement because they intend to coach and manipulate. One Judge said - everyone knows the child will just say what the parent tells them to.
What is shocking is that Cafcass do seem to take all allegations as fact believing the Mother before any evidence has been seen. As you say PD maybe they are just covering their backs in case anyone gets hurt. But Karen Woodall (PA specialist) is pretty scathing about them saying they are trained to a “feminist model “ of social work (presumably women as victims and men as abusers). You’d think feminists would be saying to Mothers - get a job! Share the care. Bizarre. They have this inbuilt thing as well (from 1970s psychology stuff) that the Mother is the most important - special bond and all that. Which frankly is codswallop. The bond is equal IMO. And some Dads are better parents than Mums. Which is why it should be 50/50 - in case one parent isn’t up to scratch! (Lots of other reasons too).
If it’s a first application with a recently separated couple I can understand in some ways then needing to look into allegations. But in cases like yours PD where you’ve been co parenting for years it MUST be clear the allegations are a reaction to the court application!
I had exactly the same thing after years of parenting. In fact a return to court after final hearing had Cafcass gunning for me and siding with the Mother. Why? Because she risked losing residency. From what I’ve seen, any Dad who applies for residency will have Cafcass siding with the Mother (what’s going on there? Is it “he’s trying to steal her kids” attitude?).
I honestly think they think the kids are “hers”. But not all cases - easier when there are no allegations. I fell foul of making allegations of ex at one point (which were true). She made up some back and then they think - child in the middle of conflict - give them to the Mother.
You need to tread carefully with Cafcass.