Hello,
I had my section 7 report yesterday regarding contact to see my 2 boys and a few a few questions.
1) I haven't seen my boys now for 21 weeks, when i first split up with my ex partner i was allowed to go and see them everyday for a month until my oldest was sitting next to on the sofa while we were watching my youngest playing on his playstation. When my ex walked in the room he started to cry out of the blue when both me and my partner asked why he was crying he wouldnt say i even said to him if you want to go back up on your gaming pc i will come up and watch you which he replied that he wanted to stay with me, now this where things turn as i left the house that night and a few hours later i received a text message saying that me ex was cutting all contact as she was doing this for her mental health nothing more nothing less and the boys blocked me from there whats app and i have had no contact since so i went to mediation and done my MIAM meeting but she didnt and was told that mediation was unsuitable.
2) So i applied to court for a CAO and had my original safeguarding telephone call with Cafcass and just said i dont know why all this has happened apart from my ex saying she was doing this for her mental health.
3) I received a copy of the safeguarding letter and my ex had made a number of serious allegations against me which are all un true and luckliy enough i have evidence that they are all are.
4) The day before i was due to go to court for FHDRA i received an updated safe guarding letter saying i was under police investigation for child abuse as my ex had phone the police on the 24th March about this and i didn't know anything till i received this report on the 28th June, obviously when i received this i crapped myself and left work too go straight to the police station to ask what all this was about as i was at court the next day. The safeguarding police officer told me there was no further action and if they were to follow it up i would've been arrested and released on bail.
5) I went to court the next day and i was representing myself when i got took in to the room with the cafcass officer at the court i pulled up some in accuracies about the report as the report stated that my partner had smacked my children the thing is i don't have a partner, the next thing was i had smacked my son on his bum but left marks on his legs so to me that's shows my children are getting coached from my ex and her friend and thirdly that my son was too scared to tell his mam that i had smacked him, i know my son and he would tell her if i had don it which i haven't i have never smacked my children. So when i went in the court my ex didn't even turn up and the judge wasn't happy but i was still not allowed any contact with my children till they get the police report which i think is ridiculous as was 3 month ago when she done this and the judge ordered a section 7 report.
6) I had my interview yesterday with the cafcass officer which went well i think i did get my point across of all the lies my ex has said and in fact i gave him a report off before we met as she had lost her 3 daughters due to emotional neglect and not being able to meet there needs. I said i think she is going down the same path as then as she has made the same kind of allegations as she did then and her mental health is playing a big part of this. But what gets me is that the evidence i had to show the cafcass officer about the lies she has told and the proof i had he wasn't interested in looking at it, i asked now that you have the police report and that there is no further action can i have some interim contact with my 2 boys till we go back to court in October so i can start to build my relationship back up with them as the damage was has been done is ridiculous.
7) The cafcass officer said that he will speak to my ex next week and ask her if i can see them, i am not holding my breath as she is making sure i don't have any contact with them and has turned them against me as up to the day i got stopped seeing them i used to get a message every night off my oldest saying goodnight love you and my youngest used to video call me everyday and send me videos of him blowing kisses to me until the day she cut me off so i haven't had anything back since so to be cut off like that shows she is alienating them against me i text the boys every couple of days to tell them i love them and i miss them but don't get nothing in return.
I feel so lost without my boys in my life and feel like its going to be hard as i have received messages off her friend saying the boys don't want to see me and did explain this to the cafcass officer that they are going to say this due to what they have been getting taught.
Any advice for how i can proceed with out hurting the boys which are 12 and 9. The cafcass officer is going to see them in school when they return in September and the section 7 report has to be sent to the court by the 21st but if i have to wait till i go to court to see my boys it will have been 31 weeks since i seen them
I had my section 7 report yesterday regarding contact to see my 2 boys and a few a few questions.
1) I haven't seen my boys now for 21 weeks, when i first split up with my ex partner i was allowed to go and see them everyday for a month until my oldest was sitting next to on the sofa while we were watching my youngest playing on his playstation. When my ex walked in the room he started to cry out of the blue when both me and my partner asked why he was crying he wouldnt say i even said to him if you want to go back up on your gaming pc i will come up and watch you which he replied that he wanted to stay with me, now this where things turn as i left the house that night and a few hours later i received a text message saying that me ex was cutting all contact as she was doing this for her mental health nothing more nothing less and the boys blocked me from there whats app and i have had no contact since so i went to mediation and done my MIAM meeting but she didnt and was told that mediation was unsuitable.
2) So i applied to court for a CAO and had my original safeguarding telephone call with Cafcass and just said i dont know why all this has happened apart from my ex saying she was doing this for her mental health.
3) I received a copy of the safeguarding letter and my ex had made a number of serious allegations against me which are all un true and luckliy enough i have evidence that they are all are.
4) The day before i was due to go to court for FHDRA i received an updated safe guarding letter saying i was under police investigation for child abuse as my ex had phone the police on the 24th March about this and i didn't know anything till i received this report on the 28th June, obviously when i received this i crapped myself and left work too go straight to the police station to ask what all this was about as i was at court the next day. The safeguarding police officer told me there was no further action and if they were to follow it up i would've been arrested and released on bail.
5) I went to court the next day and i was representing myself when i got took in to the room with the cafcass officer at the court i pulled up some in accuracies about the report as the report stated that my partner had smacked my children the thing is i don't have a partner, the next thing was i had smacked my son on his bum but left marks on his legs so to me that's shows my children are getting coached from my ex and her friend and thirdly that my son was too scared to tell his mam that i had smacked him, i know my son and he would tell her if i had don it which i haven't i have never smacked my children. So when i went in the court my ex didn't even turn up and the judge wasn't happy but i was still not allowed any contact with my children till they get the police report which i think is ridiculous as was 3 month ago when she done this and the judge ordered a section 7 report.
6) I had my interview yesterday with the cafcass officer which went well i think i did get my point across of all the lies my ex has said and in fact i gave him a report off before we met as she had lost her 3 daughters due to emotional neglect and not being able to meet there needs. I said i think she is going down the same path as then as she has made the same kind of allegations as she did then and her mental health is playing a big part of this. But what gets me is that the evidence i had to show the cafcass officer about the lies she has told and the proof i had he wasn't interested in looking at it, i asked now that you have the police report and that there is no further action can i have some interim contact with my 2 boys till we go back to court in October so i can start to build my relationship back up with them as the damage was has been done is ridiculous.
7) The cafcass officer said that he will speak to my ex next week and ask her if i can see them, i am not holding my breath as she is making sure i don't have any contact with them and has turned them against me as up to the day i got stopped seeing them i used to get a message every night off my oldest saying goodnight love you and my youngest used to video call me everyday and send me videos of him blowing kisses to me until the day she cut me off so i haven't had anything back since so to be cut off like that shows she is alienating them against me i text the boys every couple of days to tell them i love them and i miss them but don't get nothing in return.
I feel so lost without my boys in my life and feel like its going to be hard as i have received messages off her friend saying the boys don't want to see me and did explain this to the cafcass officer that they are going to say this due to what they have been getting taught.
Any advice for how i can proceed with out hurting the boys which are 12 and 9. The cafcass officer is going to see them in school when they return in September and the section 7 report has to be sent to the court by the 21st but if i have to wait till i go to court to see my boys it will have been 31 weeks since i seen them