Counselling can help yes - in particular it's support and somewhere to get things off your chest - a regular appointment like that can help you deal with things week by week. The school are not the enemy It didn't help that you had a stroppy teacher phone you. It's usually best to only ever email or contact the Headteacher rather than a class teacher or individual teachers. But good they have the picture now and are being helpful.
I think your lawyer is right not to be keen on a psychologist being involved with your daughter. Ultimately it is the parenting that affects how the child behaves. If your ex was co parenting properly then your daughter wouldn't be having issues. Also it's just the way family courts work - they don't like either parent involving a psychologist or counsellor with the child, unless the court orders it (because it needs to be done carefully). It suggests you think your child has a problem and that can come across as blaming the child almost. I understand why you think that might help but not sure it's the right move.
So did you get the prohibited steps order? What was the outcome of that first hearing? Common advice has always been - patience, play the game, jump through the hoops to get to the end and get your court order. Not easy though. Especially if not seeing your child or worried about them.
I think your lawyer is right not to be keen on a psychologist being involved with your daughter. Ultimately it is the parenting that affects how the child behaves. If your ex was co parenting properly then your daughter wouldn't be having issues. Also it's just the way family courts work - they don't like either parent involving a psychologist or counsellor with the child, unless the court orders it (because it needs to be done carefully). It suggests you think your child has a problem and that can come across as blaming the child almost. I understand why you think that might help but not sure it's the right move.
So did you get the prohibited steps order? What was the outcome of that first hearing? Common advice has always been - patience, play the game, jump through the hoops to get to the end and get your court order. Not easy though. Especially if not seeing your child or worried about them.