Hi, I was hoping not to have to look to all you guys for help again but here I am lol. My story is, I have two young children with my ex who last year suddenly stopped contact over very petty things, it was a struggle and a fight, I had a great cafcass report, slipping through the cracks at court, but knowing I am a loving and caring father I kept going until about two weeks before the first court hearing I got a call from the ex saying she doesn't want to go to court and that I can start seeing my kids again, showing the petty concerns were either made up or over exaggerated, we had a consent order drawn up and I got my time back with my kids.
Then about a month ago I meet an amazing woman, its all going great so then I decide to tell my ex that I've started seeing someone. She goes into her usual aggressive behaviour and says it's going to be a long time before she meets the kids if she even lets her meet the kids. When we separated we agreed that we would do the courteous thing and let the other meet our partner before they met our children. The ex has already had a short relationship that I was offered the chance to meet them before but I said that I trust the judgement of my ex to only ever let someone good for them and the children into their lives, that relationship ended with the police being called and having their partner removed from the exes house with our children inside, so maybe the exes judgement isn't the best.
Anyway the ex found my partner of Facebook and message without my knowledge to set up a meeting, my partner went along with it and met her yesterday, the ex showed up with a friend, spent almost 2hrs questioning what are her intentions with her children and if she intends on replacing her as a mother, plus alot of the time saying how horrible of a person and dad I am. She then goes on to say that it will only be when or even if she thinks my partner would be suitable to be around her kids, which will take several of these meet ups and wouldn't be this year if ever. My partner thought she came across well to my ex, my ex called me after and said she didn't like her and didn't think she's right for our boys, but will keep meeting her and see if that changes. Is this not ridiculous behaviour??? She then told me to promise to not go behind her back and introduce her to the kids, I was upset cause of the things she was saying about my partner and said do you trust me and trust me with our children which she said she did...... but during the meet up earlier she told my partner she didn't trust me, she's always been an compulsive lier. It escalated to her saying she will not let me see my kids again until I agree not to introduce my partner to them or she will take me to court again. I'm finding it hard to see what we're actually doing wrong, we gave her the courtesy of meeting before, I don't think there's anything legally inplace that says the ex can dictate who and how someone can be introduced to my kids. If anyone can help with experience or legal knowledge as I really just think this is some controlling, blackmailing, narcissistic stuff.
Then about a month ago I meet an amazing woman, its all going great so then I decide to tell my ex that I've started seeing someone. She goes into her usual aggressive behaviour and says it's going to be a long time before she meets the kids if she even lets her meet the kids. When we separated we agreed that we would do the courteous thing and let the other meet our partner before they met our children. The ex has already had a short relationship that I was offered the chance to meet them before but I said that I trust the judgement of my ex to only ever let someone good for them and the children into their lives, that relationship ended with the police being called and having their partner removed from the exes house with our children inside, so maybe the exes judgement isn't the best.
Anyway the ex found my partner of Facebook and message without my knowledge to set up a meeting, my partner went along with it and met her yesterday, the ex showed up with a friend, spent almost 2hrs questioning what are her intentions with her children and if she intends on replacing her as a mother, plus alot of the time saying how horrible of a person and dad I am. She then goes on to say that it will only be when or even if she thinks my partner would be suitable to be around her kids, which will take several of these meet ups and wouldn't be this year if ever. My partner thought she came across well to my ex, my ex called me after and said she didn't like her and didn't think she's right for our boys, but will keep meeting her and see if that changes. Is this not ridiculous behaviour??? She then told me to promise to not go behind her back and introduce her to the kids, I was upset cause of the things she was saying about my partner and said do you trust me and trust me with our children which she said she did...... but during the meet up earlier she told my partner she didn't trust me, she's always been an compulsive lier. It escalated to her saying she will not let me see my kids again until I agree not to introduce my partner to them or she will take me to court again. I'm finding it hard to see what we're actually doing wrong, we gave her the courtesy of meeting before, I don't think there's anything legally inplace that says the ex can dictate who and how someone can be introduced to my kids. If anyone can help with experience or legal knowledge as I really just think this is some controlling, blackmailing, narcissistic stuff.