Hi there,
I know this is a forum for dads and mums are not really ones that should be here but really don’t know where to turn now. I am not even a mum at the moment however this case is seriously affecting my chances to be in mental/physical capacity due to stress but also in legal terms of being able to bring kids up with my partner(due to nature of allegations and uncertainty of the outcome if I get pregnant now social services will be involved in my child-who knew!).
The story is long and not mine to explain from start but I’ll explain the time I am involved since.
3 years ago I met divorced dad of 2. We were seeing eachother for about 1year before I got introduced to children. Didn’t get love from the start but slowly the relationship grew and we all started grew as patched up family.
To make situation a bit more clear my partners job required him to be away for long periods of time in first year. In 2nd year he decided he’s ready for a change and started looking for office job 9-5 to be around his kids more. This progresses and contact is granted by EX as she’s not aware the situation might be permanent. Middle of year 2 my partner finds permanent position and asks EX to establish 12months contact plan. This is where steps start. Multiple email exchanges about contact and no solution. During this time contact is still granted but kids start to throw accusations at dad, start calling him “other dad” explaining that EX current partner is the actual dad.
After one of the stays and on a day of MIAM EX informs mediators that school has called MASH about one of the boys and social services are involved.
She stops answearing calls and communicating. My partner learns after a week that he’s accused of SEXUALY ASSAULTING child 1. Children apparently still happy to spend time with Dad.
We are now 12months later. Had full police disclosure for Family Court. No arrest has been made. Voluntary interview given 6months ago. Investigation closed 5months ago. Case in review for 3months at Police. Case now at CPS review since 2months. Family court orders FF in 6 weeks. Children apparently “not willing to chat to grandparents anymore”. Child 2 comes up with apparent accusations of the same nature…
Honestly what do we do? How do you fight this? I could throw loads of examples of EX wrongdoing but how do you fight such seriousness? Especially in FC as this is only needing 51% convincing something actually happened. HELP!
I know this is a forum for dads and mums are not really ones that should be here but really don’t know where to turn now. I am not even a mum at the moment however this case is seriously affecting my chances to be in mental/physical capacity due to stress but also in legal terms of being able to bring kids up with my partner(due to nature of allegations and uncertainty of the outcome if I get pregnant now social services will be involved in my child-who knew!).
The story is long and not mine to explain from start but I’ll explain the time I am involved since.
3 years ago I met divorced dad of 2. We were seeing eachother for about 1year before I got introduced to children. Didn’t get love from the start but slowly the relationship grew and we all started grew as patched up family.
To make situation a bit more clear my partners job required him to be away for long periods of time in first year. In 2nd year he decided he’s ready for a change and started looking for office job 9-5 to be around his kids more. This progresses and contact is granted by EX as she’s not aware the situation might be permanent. Middle of year 2 my partner finds permanent position and asks EX to establish 12months contact plan. This is where steps start. Multiple email exchanges about contact and no solution. During this time contact is still granted but kids start to throw accusations at dad, start calling him “other dad” explaining that EX current partner is the actual dad.
After one of the stays and on a day of MIAM EX informs mediators that school has called MASH about one of the boys and social services are involved.
She stops answearing calls and communicating. My partner learns after a week that he’s accused of SEXUALY ASSAULTING child 1. Children apparently still happy to spend time with Dad.
We are now 12months later. Had full police disclosure for Family Court. No arrest has been made. Voluntary interview given 6months ago. Investigation closed 5months ago. Case in review for 3months at Police. Case now at CPS review since 2months. Family court orders FF in 6 weeks. Children apparently “not willing to chat to grandparents anymore”. Child 2 comes up with apparent accusations of the same nature…
Honestly what do we do? How do you fight this? I could throw loads of examples of EX wrongdoing but how do you fight such seriousness? Especially in FC as this is only needing 51% convincing something actually happened. HELP!