I can’t imagine how hard it’s been for him and I’m not surprised he has considered walking away I have a couple of times, I’ve definitely had days that I wallow but then I realise I’m the only person that can try and save my daughter from all this I may not succeed but for sure I’ll do everything I possibly can.Believe me, he's had many dark days where he's considered walking away. But after a day or two of wallowing (I think this is important) he builds up the strength to keep going.
Dads can't say anything bad about the mother or suggest they have mental problems. But the mothers say whatever the hell they like. My partners ex is convinced he has anger management issues and won't drop saying he needs therapy. If he suggested she needs therapy he'd get frowned upon.
Something that is really important throughout this crappy journey is to maintain hobbies and interests to occupy your mind. It may sound frivolous but me and my family bought my partner a season ticket for his football team. It's his way of just meeting up with his mates and forgetting about the crap going on. If he can't enjoy being with his kids he shouldn't have to suffer more by never enjoying himself.
Yes that’s the hardest part for me even when we have clear proof of what there like we have to stay quiet yet they are allowed to spew rubbish with impunity it’s disgusting.
We know we’re great fathers and that’s what keeps me going.
I do try to keep busy I think over time I’ll get better at keeping myself occupied but tbh im quiet proud of how I’ve handled things so far and that gives me more strength.