S7 Report advice pls.

[Ash]

Good stuff.

 

[Ash]

So you basically hire the book and borrow it?

 

[Ash]

I wonder if it’s available in ordinary local libraries Dadlad. They can usually order you a book in.

 

[bujanin]

It's an online library from USA. The book was published there I believe, so all genuine.

It seems to be limited. I couldn't get past the preview page 11. I did register. Buying this book to get chapter eight might be the only way to get at that information. But it's really pricey.

 

[bujanin]

So you basically hire the book and borrow it?

You register with the internet archive library. But I couldn't get past the preview page 11. From there it skips to the last page, 258.

 

[coggers1980]

You register with the internet archive library. But I couldn't get past the preview page 11. From there it skips to the last page, 258.

I registered with my Google account, and then there was a tab to hire that you clicked on. I'll try and screenshot it.

 

[coggers1980]

I registered with my Google account, and then there was a tab to hire that you clicked on. I'll try and screenshot it.

 

[bujanin]

Yes I get that as a first page and then the following pages until page 11. Have you actually accessed chapter eight coggers1980?

 

[bujanin]

I wonder if it’s available in ordinary local libraries Dadlad. They can usually order you a book in.

I tried at two libraries a few months back but I think it's what they considered a very limited reader base! They declined to order it in.

 

[Ash]

That’s a shame. I know it’s an expensive book at £57.50 but compared to paying for an hour of a solicitor’s time it’s a lot cheaper than that and with much better resources. I also balked at the price but it was worth it.

 

[coggers1980]

That’s a shame. I know it’s an expensive book at £57.50 but compared to paying for an hour of a solicitor’s time it’s a lot cheaper than that and with much better resources. I also balked at the price but it was worth it.

Yup. Dunno what to suggest.

 

[MagicJ]

My two cents, based on what I've seen across the forum, not my own personal situation:

You've had cafcass highlight everything that they think is a risk, including the inclusion of the PA risk and the appointment of a 16.4 Guardian, Video Calls CRUCIALLY not with the Mother facilitating.

I'd have the Barrister argue as a bottom line that:
- the allegations are likely as a result of the PA,
- you'd be more than happy to work through a contact centre in between hearings
- this can run alongside the video calls with a report for the next hearing
- delay is against the child

I'll let @Peanut 21 give you her views when she gets a moment.

 

[Peanut 21]

The trouble is, I want @coggers1980 to have positive and encouraging advice.

I can't give that because the psychologist involved was blind to the exs manipulation and appeared to have no concept of PA, family dynamics, child/parent enmeshment or transgenerational problems. All of which is part of the issue.
The cafcass officer appeared to see what was going on last year but soon changed her tune after the psych report.

This is one extreme case with a very vindictive ex pulling the strings and triangulating the professionals into her narrative.
I don't want this to effect Coggers experience.

 

[coggers1980]

The trouble is, I want @coggers1980 to have positive and encouraging advice.

I can't give that because the psychologist involved was blind to the exs manipulation and appeared to have no concept of PA, family dynamics, child/parent enmeshment or transgenerational problems. All of which is part of the issue.
The cafcass officer appeared to see what was going on last year but soon changed her tune after the psych report.

This is one extreme case with a very vindictive ex pulling the strings and triangulating the professionals into her narrative.
I don't want this to effect Coggers experience.

Thanks for the update. I'm prepared for all the hurdles that you mention. Sadly it just means it'll keep rumbling on with little progress and little contact with my daughter.

 

[MagicJ]

The trouble is, I want @coggers1980 to have positive and encouraging advice.

I can't give that because the psychologist involved was blind to the exs manipulation and appeared to have no concept of PA, family dynamics, child/parent enmeshment or transgenerational problems. All of which is part of the issue.
The cafcass officer appeared to see what was going on last year but soon changed her tune after the psych report.

This is one extreme case with a very vindictive ex pulling the strings and triangulating the professionals into her narrative.
I don't want this to effect Coggers experience.

That's still an important perspective @Peanut 21 , I would never want to go into a situation not understanding the reality of what I am facing and I'm sure neither would @coggers1980 .

Thanks for sharing.

 

[Peanut 21]

Yes, at some point I will elaborate but want to process it still.
My partner was in a controlling and abusive relationship. The children are now stuck in it and the so called authorities are complicit in that.
My partner has been able to escape and recover but he can't save his children.