Hello Eveyone,
I am new here and would like to share my story as I have recently been caught up in a storm that never needed to happen.
On January 1st 2024 my ex partner ended our relationship of 5 and half years together, We have a 3 year old daughter together and she is currently pregnant with our second child. On that night I was beat and kicked by my ex partner which resulted in a black eye and my phone was smashed up and sim card snapped. Police report was filed with no action was taken. I was then kicked out of the family home.
2 days after leaving me she moved our daughter out of her nursery and moved her to a new one without telling me which nursery she is at and has not put me down as a registered parent for our daughter. She then set up CMS payments on the same day she moved our daughters nursery.
On January 10th I was asked to go round to the house to discuss what we can do to try and move forward and that night I stayed the night and we had sex. The next day she messaged me asking me ' If I was sleeping with her again that night '
Between January and February I saw our daughter for a maximum of 5 hours in which one of my 1 hour allocated slots I was forced to empty my pockets by my ex partners mother, I was then told to sit on the floor and for half an hour I was berated by her in front of my daughter with comments like ' I am not fit to raise a family ' and that my parents did a shit job of raising me. On January 28th both my ex partner and her mother messaged me asking me for money for Rent in a house I hadn't lived in for a month, Money for nursery at a nursery I don't know anything about and money towards our daughter for food, nappies and clothes and that if i wasn't going to give her any money she will have to take out another credit card otherwise she would be placed into debt. Because of my love and care for our daughter I sent over £1000 which is documented. She has told me that we could be a family again, if I change all my contact details and never speak to my family again on numerous occasions, So to basically change my entire life or never see my children.
On the night that she left the relationship she told me that our daughter wasn't mine and that it was someone that she had an affair with during our relationship, stayed out on multiple occasions over night and never saw a problem with it. So naturally I requested a DNA test through the CMS and the day she received the request from the CMS she flipped and sent me a rather horrible email stating that me and my family are all perverts, paedophiles and incestuous and that our daughter has a sex offender as a father! The next day I was arrested on suspicion of 1 count of rape, 1 count of financial exploitation, 1 count of controlling and coercive behaviour and 1 count of common assault. All these allegations are completely false and I fear that her role as a Probation Officer in the justice sector is giving her all the tools and knowledge to pursue her plan of expelling me from our children's life. I was interviewed and released on bail but this has made the process in family court come to a stand still as they cannot move forward until the police investigation is over. I have a family solicitor but struggling to find a suitable criminal defence solicitor due to the costs.
Since I was arrested I have had zero contact with my daughter, She has cancelled the CMS case she set up, I opened a new CMS case in which is she has refused to accept stating she doesn't need my money and does not want anything to do with me and our daughter does not need me as she has her mum who actually cares, She has cancelled out daughters football that me and her did and that I paid for, She has closed our daughters savings account that we opened when she was born and I have no idea what she has done with the money, She has taken my belongings from the house and placed them at her mums house knowing full well I cannot pick them up due to the bail conditions that are in place. I am very concerned that I am being alienated and expelled from my daughters life and I have no way of telling my daughter that I haven't given up on her or abandoned her and that I love her and I am fighting my hardest for her! By the time I may eventually see her, she is going to be a completely different person and I am going to be a stranger to her and I do not even know how the pregnancy is going of my other child.
This has all been very calculated from me Ex partner and it is pain staking that no one in a professional capacity can see this, I am being supported by a men's domestic abuse charity and NHS counsellor's for my mental health issues I am experiencing but nothing is helping me with the pain that is being caused by being away from my daughter.
I am sorry it is all very long winded but I am struggling and needed to get it of my chest
Thank you for reading if you have gotten this far
I am new here and would like to share my story as I have recently been caught up in a storm that never needed to happen.
On January 1st 2024 my ex partner ended our relationship of 5 and half years together, We have a 3 year old daughter together and she is currently pregnant with our second child. On that night I was beat and kicked by my ex partner which resulted in a black eye and my phone was smashed up and sim card snapped. Police report was filed with no action was taken. I was then kicked out of the family home.
2 days after leaving me she moved our daughter out of her nursery and moved her to a new one without telling me which nursery she is at and has not put me down as a registered parent for our daughter. She then set up CMS payments on the same day she moved our daughters nursery.
On January 10th I was asked to go round to the house to discuss what we can do to try and move forward and that night I stayed the night and we had sex. The next day she messaged me asking me ' If I was sleeping with her again that night '
Between January and February I saw our daughter for a maximum of 5 hours in which one of my 1 hour allocated slots I was forced to empty my pockets by my ex partners mother, I was then told to sit on the floor and for half an hour I was berated by her in front of my daughter with comments like ' I am not fit to raise a family ' and that my parents did a shit job of raising me. On January 28th both my ex partner and her mother messaged me asking me for money for Rent in a house I hadn't lived in for a month, Money for nursery at a nursery I don't know anything about and money towards our daughter for food, nappies and clothes and that if i wasn't going to give her any money she will have to take out another credit card otherwise she would be placed into debt. Because of my love and care for our daughter I sent over £1000 which is documented. She has told me that we could be a family again, if I change all my contact details and never speak to my family again on numerous occasions, So to basically change my entire life or never see my children.
On the night that she left the relationship she told me that our daughter wasn't mine and that it was someone that she had an affair with during our relationship, stayed out on multiple occasions over night and never saw a problem with it. So naturally I requested a DNA test through the CMS and the day she received the request from the CMS she flipped and sent me a rather horrible email stating that me and my family are all perverts, paedophiles and incestuous and that our daughter has a sex offender as a father! The next day I was arrested on suspicion of 1 count of rape, 1 count of financial exploitation, 1 count of controlling and coercive behaviour and 1 count of common assault. All these allegations are completely false and I fear that her role as a Probation Officer in the justice sector is giving her all the tools and knowledge to pursue her plan of expelling me from our children's life. I was interviewed and released on bail but this has made the process in family court come to a stand still as they cannot move forward until the police investigation is over. I have a family solicitor but struggling to find a suitable criminal defence solicitor due to the costs.
Since I was arrested I have had zero contact with my daughter, She has cancelled the CMS case she set up, I opened a new CMS case in which is she has refused to accept stating she doesn't need my money and does not want anything to do with me and our daughter does not need me as she has her mum who actually cares, She has cancelled out daughters football that me and her did and that I paid for, She has closed our daughters savings account that we opened when she was born and I have no idea what she has done with the money, She has taken my belongings from the house and placed them at her mums house knowing full well I cannot pick them up due to the bail conditions that are in place. I am very concerned that I am being alienated and expelled from my daughters life and I have no way of telling my daughter that I haven't given up on her or abandoned her and that I love her and I am fighting my hardest for her! By the time I may eventually see her, she is going to be a completely different person and I am going to be a stranger to her and I do not even know how the pregnancy is going of my other child.
This has all been very calculated from me Ex partner and it is pain staking that no one in a professional capacity can see this, I am being supported by a men's domestic abuse charity and NHS counsellor's for my mental health issues I am experiencing but nothing is helping me with the pain that is being caused by being away from my daughter.
I am sorry it is all very long winded but I am struggling and needed to get it of my chest
Thank you for reading if you have gotten this far