Hello All,
Background
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Wife got me arrested for false DV allegations couple of times last year, was on bail, had to leave the rented house due to bail conditions, no charges and all cases dismissed, wife followed up with NMO, which i accepted on no admission basis, tried mediation but she didn't attend, the signed mediation forms are already 4 months old.
currently kids (13 and 7) living with mother but i see them daily, but mother is very controlling and i am at her mercy and she can say NO anytime (which she does often) to deny me seeing kids, specially i cant take kids on holidays and no overnight stays as i am living in a shared house at the moment.
Now i want to sort out child arrangements and financial order preferably out of court (to save costs), wife got legal aid, i really doubt though that wife will consider any out of court settlement, divorce is already in progress and waiting for conditional order.
I got no assets, little savings and reasonable salary, i want to give my wife her fair share whatever it is, i believe its 50-50, so that from my 50% i can get a small house and live peacefully with a new partner (no partner yet).
Regarding child arragments i like to apply for 50-50 like one week on and one week off or something similar, I am a very hands on father and take part in all child related activities like helping with their studies, parent teacher meeting, gp apt and anything and everything i can do. i work from home so doing all this is not a problem for me. no smoking or drug related issues, health is fine. obviously her solicitor will accused me for everything possible in the book like they did in their NMO application.
What are my chances to get 50-50?
in order to apply for a C100 application do i need to have a rented house first, i dont want to rent beforehand as i dont want to spend 2K per month on a 2 bed house just to find out wife deny kids access, but i can get a house as soon i get court order.
Solicitors are bloddy expensive and i trust myself more and happy to do it on my own and can use McKenzie friend if its beneficial at any stage, i can't spend my small savings on solicitors as i intend to use it for my house deposit.
should i email her solicitor for out of court settlement of just apply to court direct
If i get married before CAO and financial order sorted, will there be any implications? i like to move on and get married asap.
What if i buy a property now with my savings, i can offer her share to pay in cash, maybe in instalments once we know how much i owe her.
for the sake of financial order what is my separation/marriage end date?
please advise where to start, is there a same application for both CAO and finance or separate, which one should i apply first?
Many Thanks
Background
------------
Wife got me arrested for false DV allegations couple of times last year, was on bail, had to leave the rented house due to bail conditions, no charges and all cases dismissed, wife followed up with NMO, which i accepted on no admission basis, tried mediation but she didn't attend, the signed mediation forms are already 4 months old.
currently kids (13 and 7) living with mother but i see them daily, but mother is very controlling and i am at her mercy and she can say NO anytime (which she does often) to deny me seeing kids, specially i cant take kids on holidays and no overnight stays as i am living in a shared house at the moment.
Now i want to sort out child arrangements and financial order preferably out of court (to save costs), wife got legal aid, i really doubt though that wife will consider any out of court settlement, divorce is already in progress and waiting for conditional order.
I got no assets, little savings and reasonable salary, i want to give my wife her fair share whatever it is, i believe its 50-50, so that from my 50% i can get a small house and live peacefully with a new partner (no partner yet).
Regarding child arragments i like to apply for 50-50 like one week on and one week off or something similar, I am a very hands on father and take part in all child related activities like helping with their studies, parent teacher meeting, gp apt and anything and everything i can do. i work from home so doing all this is not a problem for me. no smoking or drug related issues, health is fine. obviously her solicitor will accused me for everything possible in the book like they did in their NMO application.
What are my chances to get 50-50?
in order to apply for a C100 application do i need to have a rented house first, i dont want to rent beforehand as i dont want to spend 2K per month on a 2 bed house just to find out wife deny kids access, but i can get a house as soon i get court order.
Solicitors are bloddy expensive and i trust myself more and happy to do it on my own and can use McKenzie friend if its beneficial at any stage, i can't spend my small savings on solicitors as i intend to use it for my house deposit.
should i email her solicitor for out of court settlement of just apply to court direct
If i get married before CAO and financial order sorted, will there be any implications? i like to move on and get married asap.
What if i buy a property now with my savings, i can offer her share to pay in cash, maybe in instalments once we know how much i owe her.
for the sake of financial order what is my separation/marriage end date?
please advise where to start, is there a same application for both CAO and finance or separate, which one should i apply first?
Many Thanks