After 9 months of seeing my 3 year old daughter on a regular basis but only 2 over night stays I decided to request 50/50 shared arrangement. The main reason being is I finally got some representation and for the first time felt I was being bullied into the current arrangement. I asked for mediation which she didn’t show up and then out of the blue 2 months later I received a letter direct from my ex wife’s solicitor with a load of false allegations and saying my access was being cut back to 7 hours a week with no over nights stays. She submitted a C1A and also a part 25. Basically falsely accusing me of so many allegations! All because I wanted a 50/50 shared arrangement. Roll on 6 months later and I’m still in same position bust most of the hoops have been jumped through much to my exs anger and trying to make it even harder for me to parent.
1) I have no criminal record
2) Cafcass closed case after a 1 hour phonecall
3) Police confirmed I am no danger to ex or child
4) passed mental health report
5) passed 2 x Peth tests (36ng / 20ng)
The second one being a voluntary one as when I passed the first one she still refused unsupervised access and then demanded 6 months hair test. So I just do them monthly since with this month being abstinence.
6) she is refusing to do Peth tests after me expressing my concerns
7) my daughter is staying at my exs mums house 2-3 nights a week some weeks instead of being with me
8) my ex refuse to communicate
9) I have done cafcass course and submitted parenting plan which she totally ignored
10) I have to ring nursery twice a week for updates on my daughters well-being as ex won’t let me know when she’s I’ll eyc
11) they have now booked 4 holidays abroad without consulting me or asking for my consent
The list goes on…
The good news is my solicitor submitted an urgent application due to me passing the tests they requested only for things not to change and the goalposts moved.
The courts accepted my application and added an hearing for 20th Sept.
Today my solicitor emailed the courts with my latest voluntary Peth results As well as my exs solicitor.
I want to feel confident but as you all know it’s hard when it’s been going on so long and you have had to jump through so many hopes to prove you have done nothing wrong other than wanting to be on my child’s life equally to my daughter mum.
The hearing is in Derby.
Anybody been on similar situation and wondered what your outcome was?
Thanks and keep strong dads
1) I have no criminal record
2) Cafcass closed case after a 1 hour phonecall
3) Police confirmed I am no danger to ex or child
4) passed mental health report
5) passed 2 x Peth tests (36ng / 20ng)
The second one being a voluntary one as when I passed the first one she still refused unsupervised access and then demanded 6 months hair test. So I just do them monthly since with this month being abstinence.
6) she is refusing to do Peth tests after me expressing my concerns
7) my daughter is staying at my exs mums house 2-3 nights a week some weeks instead of being with me
8) my ex refuse to communicate
9) I have done cafcass course and submitted parenting plan which she totally ignored
10) I have to ring nursery twice a week for updates on my daughters well-being as ex won’t let me know when she’s I’ll eyc
11) they have now booked 4 holidays abroad without consulting me or asking for my consent
The list goes on…
The good news is my solicitor submitted an urgent application due to me passing the tests they requested only for things not to change and the goalposts moved.
The courts accepted my application and added an hearing for 20th Sept.
Today my solicitor emailed the courts with my latest voluntary Peth results As well as my exs solicitor.
I want to feel confident but as you all know it’s hard when it’s been going on so long and you have had to jump through so many hopes to prove you have done nothing wrong other than wanting to be on my child’s life equally to my daughter mum.
The hearing is in Derby.
Anybody been on similar situation and wondered what your outcome was?
Thanks and keep strong dads