And trying to keep them out of the adult matters.Rather it means we are the parent who understands and respects the children's long term development needs and have the strength and patience to get them to a better life.
Karen Woodall had a particular blog about how the agro parent makes the child feel important by telling them about their feelings of the other parent. But a decent parent keeps them out of it.
As for the people who betray you, it's on them if they're not willing to keep open minded.