Hello everyone on the beginning I would like to apologise for my English, I’m Polish living in UK since 2006. I was reading your stories for last few weeks and I decided to share my one as well so I can get some advice from you. I will be updating you with new posts how it’s going.
I will try describe my story short way and if you have any questions just ask. My relationship end up in September we been together nearly 5 years never married. We have 2 years and 9 months old daughter and also there is 11 years old girl (she’s to me like my own one) from my ex partner previous relationship. After my daughter was born my ex changed significantly and started using domestic violence towards me and children (have evidence of this). I’ve been arrested 5 times due to her false allegations of domestic abuse. Been twice on police bail but all those cases are closed because there was no evidence and she didn’t support police actions. My ex is emotionally unstable and can switch in one second to be very aggressive I always was going out for a walk till she will calm down. Before my daughter was born I’ve spent a lot of time with older one and for 3 years I was walking with her to school in the morning just to support my ex partner. Now I know all what she care about is benefits not children. March last year I was kicked out from home because of her swinging moods. I was coming every day to see my daughter and I was taking her outside for a walk. One day I came to take little one outside so she ran to me but my ex pushed her against radiator and she hit it so I picked her up to check if she is ok and my ex ripped her off my arms and threw her on the sofa she was not even 2 years old. At this moment I left and I called police reporting aggressive mother after few hours police called me to meet me and I was arrested and ended up with police bail conditions for 28 days because she put false statement saying I’ve punched her. Next day when I was released I contact social service to tell them about my concerns about children. Few days later I got report from them and I discovered from police reports that there was domestic violence in her previous relationship 4 years before I met her. I got touch with older one father and he told me his story and was exactly the same being arrested because of her aggression and false statements. Also during our relationship she bit up her mother and again because of her being emotionally unstable. I was trying everything to make sure of girls well-being I even came back home in April we moved out to council flat I was renovating it to make sure girls gonna have decent conditions and putting a lot of my savings into that. But September last year it was last time when I was living in new place. 8:30 in the morning police came and I was arrested because she said I’ve punched her, night before I heard from her “you’ve done everything at home so you can moved out now”. Second police bail 28 days. I said to myself enough! To much stress for me and children. I’ve started working with social service brought them evidence of children abused and they noticed they were going wrong way because they believe in her sensitive stories making her a victim but true is children and I we are the victims.
Since September my ex is doing everything to blocking me from seeing my daughter. I had just few occasions to see her during this time. I had Christmas presents for girls in my car till 10 of January this year. What I’ve done so far, I managed to contact Headteacher (very helpful and professional person) in my daughter nursery and for last few weeks I’m spending one hour every week with my daughter over there. I’ve put application in court and I’m going for full custody first hearing is on 21 of April 2022. Social service preparing an agreement for me to pick up my daughter in the morning from nursery to spend few hours with her and then drop her off so I will avoid to see my ex. Also Cafcass contact me to confirm details and start my case. During this five months my ex was harassing me all the time and then last day when she was contacting me it reached the level of 136 missed calls, 30 mails and 270 text messages and 3 calls to my working place. It was enough for me I couldn’t even use my phone for working, next day I went to the police station report her for harassment it was to much stress for me. At the police station I found out they were looking for me to get arrested because my ex report harassment 3 months earlier another lie because I wasn’t harassing her. I showed police evidence and explained that is not true. Probably some smart friends advice her to do it to put me in worst position. Everything turned against her 3 weeks ago she got arrested for that she is on police bail conditions for 28 days I’ve been told it’s gonna be extended for longer time and she going to face a Criminal Court for harassment, lying to police and assaulted my person. At least now there’s quite and I can focus on everything to make sure I will have my daughter with me.
I’m happy to posting here with updates if you have any questions guys just ask if you have any advice for me that would be great. I was wondering how are my chances in the court for full custody? I will do everything for my daughter also I wish to do everything for older one but I have no legal rights for her.
Seb Ka
I will try describe my story short way and if you have any questions just ask. My relationship end up in September we been together nearly 5 years never married. We have 2 years and 9 months old daughter and also there is 11 years old girl (she’s to me like my own one) from my ex partner previous relationship. After my daughter was born my ex changed significantly and started using domestic violence towards me and children (have evidence of this). I’ve been arrested 5 times due to her false allegations of domestic abuse. Been twice on police bail but all those cases are closed because there was no evidence and she didn’t support police actions. My ex is emotionally unstable and can switch in one second to be very aggressive I always was going out for a walk till she will calm down. Before my daughter was born I’ve spent a lot of time with older one and for 3 years I was walking with her to school in the morning just to support my ex partner. Now I know all what she care about is benefits not children. March last year I was kicked out from home because of her swinging moods. I was coming every day to see my daughter and I was taking her outside for a walk. One day I came to take little one outside so she ran to me but my ex pushed her against radiator and she hit it so I picked her up to check if she is ok and my ex ripped her off my arms and threw her on the sofa she was not even 2 years old. At this moment I left and I called police reporting aggressive mother after few hours police called me to meet me and I was arrested and ended up with police bail conditions for 28 days because she put false statement saying I’ve punched her. Next day when I was released I contact social service to tell them about my concerns about children. Few days later I got report from them and I discovered from police reports that there was domestic violence in her previous relationship 4 years before I met her. I got touch with older one father and he told me his story and was exactly the same being arrested because of her aggression and false statements. Also during our relationship she bit up her mother and again because of her being emotionally unstable. I was trying everything to make sure of girls well-being I even came back home in April we moved out to council flat I was renovating it to make sure girls gonna have decent conditions and putting a lot of my savings into that. But September last year it was last time when I was living in new place. 8:30 in the morning police came and I was arrested because she said I’ve punched her, night before I heard from her “you’ve done everything at home so you can moved out now”. Second police bail 28 days. I said to myself enough! To much stress for me and children. I’ve started working with social service brought them evidence of children abused and they noticed they were going wrong way because they believe in her sensitive stories making her a victim but true is children and I we are the victims.
Since September my ex is doing everything to blocking me from seeing my daughter. I had just few occasions to see her during this time. I had Christmas presents for girls in my car till 10 of January this year. What I’ve done so far, I managed to contact Headteacher (very helpful and professional person) in my daughter nursery and for last few weeks I’m spending one hour every week with my daughter over there. I’ve put application in court and I’m going for full custody first hearing is on 21 of April 2022. Social service preparing an agreement for me to pick up my daughter in the morning from nursery to spend few hours with her and then drop her off so I will avoid to see my ex. Also Cafcass contact me to confirm details and start my case. During this five months my ex was harassing me all the time and then last day when she was contacting me it reached the level of 136 missed calls, 30 mails and 270 text messages and 3 calls to my working place. It was enough for me I couldn’t even use my phone for working, next day I went to the police station report her for harassment it was to much stress for me. At the police station I found out they were looking for me to get arrested because my ex report harassment 3 months earlier another lie because I wasn’t harassing her. I showed police evidence and explained that is not true. Probably some smart friends advice her to do it to put me in worst position. Everything turned against her 3 weeks ago she got arrested for that she is on police bail conditions for 28 days I’ve been told it’s gonna be extended for longer time and she going to face a Criminal Court for harassment, lying to police and assaulted my person. At least now there’s quite and I can focus on everything to make sure I will have my daughter with me.
I’m happy to posting here with updates if you have any questions guys just ask if you have any advice for me that would be great. I was wondering how are my chances in the court for full custody? I will do everything for my daughter also I wish to do everything for older one but I have no legal rights for her.
Seb Ka