Counselling/Therapy

[Jimi]

I've had a few counselling sessions over the last few weeks and starting to doubt the effectiveness they actually have (at least for me, others may find it helpful), I will however continue with it for now as it's something that's included in my work package. The initial talking of your story to the counsellor helps at the beginning and they try to give you some exercises which are very temporary and subsequent sessions feel deja vu. The reality is the counsellor has likely not been in the situation you are in and hence they can't relate to what you are going through. I am therefore considering paid coaching from other dads that have actually been through a similar nightmare. If and when I find a good coach I will post back on this forum.

Therapists are hit and miss. Mostly miss who will just do a checklist approach with strategies that are all online anyway. Don't be afraid to ask for a different one if that's possible.

Trauma specialist therapists are better equipped to discuss child loss with. I don't know the difference between their qualifications, there seem to be a lot of "trauma-informed" but not sure if that's specialist or superficial.