January - April 2021
- I am applicant father, application to court made late 2020.
- January 2021 I spoke to NHS 111 as son self harming at mothers (mothers ignores my inquiries)
- 111 make a referral to child services
- child services meet mother in person
- Child services present mother to WomensAid as ‘abused’, WomensAid reject as no evidence.
- my meeting is via zoom with x2 people from child services and I could hardly speak
- child services write a family assessment report
- reports says I put the children up to make false claims about mother only to further my court case (they refused to look at evidence).
- I learn mother works for same local authority also.
- father has to complain to have family assessment factually corrected
- complaint is not dealt with as author of said assessment leaves child services
July 21
- social worker from child services assigned to family
- mets me once at my home to introduce herself.
- I explain I have over a 1,000 allegations made against me by mother using our children: tracking devices in their teddies, false police reports, false allegations etc etc
- Despite not looking at anything, SW says my case will ‘fail'
- Mother changes children schools without notice (year before she moved away without notice)
August
- mother has covid, asks me to have children for total 3 consecutive weeks
- no concerns raised or safe guarding checks conducted by either mother or SW
NOTE: At his point in August 2021, the SW put the children on a 'at risk' register from me, with local authority. I was not aware of this until 2023.
September
- SW continues to ignore my disclosures since July (no replies or acknowledgements)
- SW confirms she has been sharing my disclosures with mother (without my knowledge or permission)
- I ask if the sharing is reciprocal - no reply from SW
October
- court hearing: mother cites me for child abuse, domestic abuse, grooming, stalking, harassment
- mother requests SW to conduct Section 7 report, her barrister calls SW live in court, who answers right away and agrees
- I object, but overruled. (I have never had a call or email answered from sw)
November
- I deal with multiple welfare issues concerning children (evidenced to court in January 2023)
- I try to hand myself into Police due to mothers criminal accusations in October
- Police confirm allegations are criminal but no reports made and recommend I complain about SW, which I do
December
- I complain to Child Services regarding SW, complaint is closed within 7 days without investigation
(evidenced to court in January 2023)
January 2022
- SW visits me for the second time, and the first time when I have the children
- SW makes eldest son cry by telling him the smacking and arguing at mothers is all ‘in his head’
- despite my requests, SW excludes me as as applicant father from Section 7 report
- I ask SW if there is anyone else he can speak too - no reply, ignored
- I email SW after learning SW has been making allegations to my children about me - no reply, ignored
May 2022 court hearing:
- SW withholds Section 7 dated February 2022 until 2 days before hearing in May 2022.
- SW tells court I have PTSD (untrue) and I do not know how to communicate with children
- SW recommends all contact ceases and children phone numbers changed.
Outcome:
- Court stop all contact. No telephone or emails.
- father to work with child psychologist on his communication so he can make videos for children.
- Mother requests non molestation order
- Court grants non molestation order.
- Father to have a risk assessment and make his full medical file available.
- Outside of court, SW also bans my wider family - grandma, grandad, aunties, uncles and cousins from contact.
NOTE: I have never once visited/text/phoned/threatened mother since separation in 2014. I have multiple police reports of her doing exactly that to me and I am certified as a victim of domestic abuse due to her behaviour. All ignored. All there above has happened without evidence or even one single incident against me.
Section 7 said both children want to live with their father - SW says that's child grooming by father.
July - September Risk Assessment (RA):
- Father was not asked how he disciplines children - RA reports he is a physical risk to children
- Father says mother abuses him using children - RA reports he is obsessed with mother
- Father says he has never hurt anyone, had violent thoughts, been in trouble with Police, taken drugs, drink or smoke - RA says he is homicidal
- Father says mother misled court in the past and been told off for false allegations - RA says she believes father will manufacture evidence
- Father says mother harasses and makes harmful false allegations of him - RA says all support father has had (victim support, Police etc) is only based on his 'story'.
- RA gives no examples and uses broad allegations.
RA refused to look at any of my evidence saying she could 'only go by whats in front of her' in reference to the Section 7, which I was excluded from.
NOTE: when I met RA for first time in person, she asked if I have taken drugs or drank? I said no, she replied ‘well I do not need to see your medical file then’ - in the report she says I refused to give my medical file.
October
December
Court hearing:
- Mother seeks to ban all contact with children from father until they are 18 (as father a physical risk to them)
- Mother seeks to remove fathers parental responsibility and give it to her partner - 'in case something should happen to her’ (as father homicidal).
- SW tells court she will make referral Child psychologist referral again, knowing there has been zero contact for 7 months.
NOTE: SW knew since May the Psychologist had not contacted me. It was her role to instigate this, so Psychologist was waiting for me and I was waiting for him - neither of us had each others contact details - only SW could put both parties together. When she did so in December 2022, I found out she had been emailed appointments to forward to me from Psychologist and she had kept them until they had expired. I evidenced the emails in my bundle.
- Father asks court to appoint an independent SW, court says they will note request and if on DAY 1 of final hearing when SW and RA are cross examined and it is found there are causes for concern, a independent social worker can be appointed.
- Still no contact between children and father.
- Non molestation order extended by court.
- Despite agreeing to do so in court, SW refuses to give children their Christmas presents and cards from their dad, dad collects them in January.
NOTE: Christmas, Son goes to friends house and contacts father via xbox, tells father he is scared and the smacking and arguing is still happening. Tells father he and brother cry a lot for him and that mother has told they won't see their dad for ‘years’ as daddy has done bad things to them and to her.
January and February 2023
- both mum and dad file their witness statements and exhibits into court.
- mother makes no mention of any of the serious allegations she made in court in October 2021
- none of mothers exhibits match the statements made by the SW or the RA
- father evidences all his allegations.
May
- child psychologist closes case with father after just 2 videos saying there is no issue with father communications to his children.
- child psychologist meets SW, SW refuses to allow any form of contact
July
Summary points:
Mother, the Social Worker and the Risk Assessor work for the same local authority.
I am convinced the reason our children were put on a ‘at risk’ register by the SW back in August 2021 was to get mother legal aid, as was the WomensAid attempt.
Under data protection request I find emails from SW to RA saying I am 'controlling' and 'manipulative' - the RA is not a qualified Psychologist, but makes such serious allegations against me (murderer, physical risk, obsessed) - I dont know how I am going to be able to deal with this in court.
- Neither I or my family have seen or heard from the children since last May.
- having the children removed has spread in the community to such an extent I put a web page up here - family dad .co .uk to stop the confrontation (been 2).
I am a good dad. there is no evidence against me and not even a single incident. But how do I prove to a court I am good dad and not a bloody murderer? I dont feel strong enough to go through a trial having not seen or heard from the children in so long and had such harmful allegations made. I have written good bye letters as I am struggling and isn't great to have your full medical file treated as a weapon? So I cant go to gp!
- I am applicant father, application to court made late 2020.
- January 2021 I spoke to NHS 111 as son self harming at mothers (mothers ignores my inquiries)
- 111 make a referral to child services
- child services meet mother in person
- Child services present mother to WomensAid as ‘abused’, WomensAid reject as no evidence.
- my meeting is via zoom with x2 people from child services and I could hardly speak
- child services write a family assessment report
- reports says I put the children up to make false claims about mother only to further my court case (they refused to look at evidence).
- I learn mother works for same local authority also.
- father has to complain to have family assessment factually corrected
- complaint is not dealt with as author of said assessment leaves child services
July 21
- social worker from child services assigned to family
- mets me once at my home to introduce herself.
- I explain I have over a 1,000 allegations made against me by mother using our children: tracking devices in their teddies, false police reports, false allegations etc etc
- Despite not looking at anything, SW says my case will ‘fail'
- Mother changes children schools without notice (year before she moved away without notice)
August
- mother has covid, asks me to have children for total 3 consecutive weeks
- no concerns raised or safe guarding checks conducted by either mother or SW
NOTE: At his point in August 2021, the SW put the children on a 'at risk' register from me, with local authority. I was not aware of this until 2023.
September
- SW continues to ignore my disclosures since July (no replies or acknowledgements)
- SW confirms she has been sharing my disclosures with mother (without my knowledge or permission)
- I ask if the sharing is reciprocal - no reply from SW
October
- court hearing: mother cites me for child abuse, domestic abuse, grooming, stalking, harassment
- mother requests SW to conduct Section 7 report, her barrister calls SW live in court, who answers right away and agrees
- I object, but overruled. (I have never had a call or email answered from sw)
November
- I deal with multiple welfare issues concerning children (evidenced to court in January 2023)
- I try to hand myself into Police due to mothers criminal accusations in October
- Police confirm allegations are criminal but no reports made and recommend I complain about SW, which I do
December
- I complain to Child Services regarding SW, complaint is closed within 7 days without investigation
(evidenced to court in January 2023)
January 2022
- SW visits me for the second time, and the first time when I have the children
- SW makes eldest son cry by telling him the smacking and arguing at mothers is all ‘in his head’
- despite my requests, SW excludes me as as applicant father from Section 7 report
- I ask SW if there is anyone else he can speak too - no reply, ignored
- I email SW after learning SW has been making allegations to my children about me - no reply, ignored
May 2022 court hearing:
- SW withholds Section 7 dated February 2022 until 2 days before hearing in May 2022.
- SW tells court I have PTSD (untrue) and I do not know how to communicate with children
- SW recommends all contact ceases and children phone numbers changed.
Outcome:
- Court stop all contact. No telephone or emails.
- father to work with child psychologist on his communication so he can make videos for children.
- Mother requests non molestation order
- Court grants non molestation order.
- Father to have a risk assessment and make his full medical file available.
- Outside of court, SW also bans my wider family - grandma, grandad, aunties, uncles and cousins from contact.
NOTE: I have never once visited/text/phoned/threatened mother since separation in 2014. I have multiple police reports of her doing exactly that to me and I am certified as a victim of domestic abuse due to her behaviour. All ignored. All there above has happened without evidence or even one single incident against me.
Section 7 said both children want to live with their father - SW says that's child grooming by father.
July - September Risk Assessment (RA):
- Father was not asked how he disciplines children - RA reports he is a physical risk to children
- Father says mother abuses him using children - RA reports he is obsessed with mother
- Father says he has never hurt anyone, had violent thoughts, been in trouble with Police, taken drugs, drink or smoke - RA says he is homicidal
- Father says mother misled court in the past and been told off for false allegations - RA says she believes father will manufacture evidence
- Father says mother harasses and makes harmful false allegations of him - RA says all support father has had (victim support, Police etc) is only based on his 'story'.
- RA gives no examples and uses broad allegations.
RA refused to look at any of my evidence saying she could 'only go by whats in front of her' in reference to the Section 7, which I was excluded from.
NOTE: when I met RA for first time in person, she asked if I have taken drugs or drank? I said no, she replied ‘well I do not need to see your medical file then’ - in the report she says I refused to give my medical file.
October
- SW writes an addendum report to Section 7 based on the Risk Assessment
- SW says there has been no contact with children as father has not made the videos
- SW does not disclose she has added fathers entire family to the contact ban
December
Court hearing:
- Mother seeks to ban all contact with children from father until they are 18 (as father a physical risk to them)
- Mother seeks to remove fathers parental responsibility and give it to her partner - 'in case something should happen to her’ (as father homicidal).
- SW tells court she will make referral Child psychologist referral again, knowing there has been zero contact for 7 months.
NOTE: SW knew since May the Psychologist had not contacted me. It was her role to instigate this, so Psychologist was waiting for me and I was waiting for him - neither of us had each others contact details - only SW could put both parties together. When she did so in December 2022, I found out she had been emailed appointments to forward to me from Psychologist and she had kept them until they had expired. I evidenced the emails in my bundle.
- Father asks court to appoint an independent SW, court says they will note request and if on DAY 1 of final hearing when SW and RA are cross examined and it is found there are causes for concern, a independent social worker can be appointed.
- Still no contact between children and father.
- Non molestation order extended by court.
- Despite agreeing to do so in court, SW refuses to give children their Christmas presents and cards from their dad, dad collects them in January.
NOTE: Christmas, Son goes to friends house and contacts father via xbox, tells father he is scared and the smacking and arguing is still happening. Tells father he and brother cry a lot for him and that mother has told they won't see their dad for ‘years’ as daddy has done bad things to them and to her.
January and February 2023
- both mum and dad file their witness statements and exhibits into court.
- mother makes no mention of any of the serious allegations she made in court in October 2021
- none of mothers exhibits match the statements made by the SW or the RA
- father evidences all his allegations.
May
- child psychologist closes case with father after just 2 videos saying there is no issue with father communications to his children.
- child psychologist meets SW, SW refuses to allow any form of contact
July
- SW tells father he has to show progress and work with her, as there is no one else that can help
- Despite being discharged by Psychologist as there are no issues with my communication, SW says I have to make videos.
- I makes a video for children and send it to SW, asking for feedback SW does not reply.
- Like the previous videos, there is no feedback.
- A month later Sw replies stating mother has not yet ‘approved’ my video.
- It seems mother decides whether my communication is acceptable, not SW or Psychologist.
Summary points:
Mother, the Social Worker and the Risk Assessor work for the same local authority.
I am convinced the reason our children were put on a ‘at risk’ register by the SW back in August 2021 was to get mother legal aid, as was the WomensAid attempt.
Under data protection request I find emails from SW to RA saying I am 'controlling' and 'manipulative' - the RA is not a qualified Psychologist, but makes such serious allegations against me (murderer, physical risk, obsessed) - I dont know how I am going to be able to deal with this in court.
- Neither I or my family have seen or heard from the children since last May.
- having the children removed has spread in the community to such an extent I put a web page up here - family dad .co .uk to stop the confrontation (been 2).
I am a good dad. there is no evidence against me and not even a single incident. But how do I prove to a court I am good dad and not a bloody murderer? I dont feel strong enough to go through a trial having not seen or heard from the children in so long and had such harmful allegations made. I have written good bye letters as I am struggling and isn't great to have your full medical file treated as a weapon? So I cant go to gp!
