I wanted to have a discussion on this topic as to what is actually defined as "conflict" between parents.
I find it interesting as narcissistic personality types often deflect and out the pressure back into you. A lot of "you" phrases are used.
A lot of my own anxiety is stemming from anticipating and dealing with the abusive blamer type messages "your behaviour" , "you didn't do x" or "your always etc etc .."
Baby mothers always want to feign conflict, but what is actually defined as conflict? It seems that any disagreements at all is seen as conflict.
"Daughter came back and her teeth weren't brushed and I thought you would have done it, I'm worried about your parenting"
" I disagree"
Would you even explain yourself, would you ignore? Would you deflect?
An interesting discussion would be as to what is defined as conflict, dads have to be whiter than white, but do you have to have no balls? Is it ever possible to navigate without conflict? Correcting the delusional based statement with cold hard facts?
Even with the most toxic exes, setting boundaries would even be seen as control, as conflict.
Why even bother trying to avoid the conflict , it's not possible, why not deflect every single stage based on the "facts " , how can it be conflict if your responses are factual.
In one hand you need to correct blatant false statements or risk getting walked over, feeling anxious , feeling abused, on the other hand, the ex is just baiting you out to respond waiting for their next yum yum pellet to feed off.
What is considered engaging and what is responding? Is grey rocking the only way?
Interested to hear people's thoughts on the topic and what they define as conflict.
I find it interesting as narcissistic personality types often deflect and out the pressure back into you. A lot of "you" phrases are used.
A lot of my own anxiety is stemming from anticipating and dealing with the abusive blamer type messages "your behaviour" , "you didn't do x" or "your always etc etc .."
Baby mothers always want to feign conflict, but what is actually defined as conflict? It seems that any disagreements at all is seen as conflict.
"Daughter came back and her teeth weren't brushed and I thought you would have done it, I'm worried about your parenting"
" I disagree"
Would you even explain yourself, would you ignore? Would you deflect?
An interesting discussion would be as to what is defined as conflict, dads have to be whiter than white, but do you have to have no balls? Is it ever possible to navigate without conflict? Correcting the delusional based statement with cold hard facts?
Even with the most toxic exes, setting boundaries would even be seen as control, as conflict.
Why even bother trying to avoid the conflict , it's not possible, why not deflect every single stage based on the "facts " , how can it be conflict if your responses are factual.
In one hand you need to correct blatant false statements or risk getting walked over, feeling anxious , feeling abused, on the other hand, the ex is just baiting you out to respond waiting for their next yum yum pellet to feed off.
What is considered engaging and what is responding? Is grey rocking the only way?
Interested to hear people's thoughts on the topic and what they define as conflict.
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